Housekeeping

[pecunium]

My post about my new girlfriend was, for those who noticed, a bit vague on some details. Not least, I didn't mention her name.

I'm not going to. The poly aspects of her life are not out to her family, and so I am not going to risk one of them finding out about it from me.

I could make a filter, and use her name behind it, but that's not fair to those who might want to comment, and it's poor security for her. It would put a burden of keeping track of the filtering of my posts before they made reference.

I've done the dance of circumspection before. Marna and I were involved before Maia and I broke up, but the poly aspects of my life were less known then, and I didn't want people to think my involvement with Marna was part of the breakup (it wasn't).

So... what can be in the open, is in the open, and what can't be, isn't. The players in my romantic life are Marna/commodorified (occasionally referred to as, "my Canadian Girlfriend), and CG (which is a shorthand for, "CrushGirl) which was the way Marna teased me about her when I started talking about her; right after we met, a year ago Friday) is the reason for my understated squee of yesterday.

If I seem to be somewhat secretive on things, that's the reason why.

Comments

[don-fitch.livejournal.com]

I might not fully understand "Poly Relationships" -- probably because, back in The Day (more than 50 years ago), I had a lot of difficulty coping with _one_ Significant Other -- but I sure don't understand people who seem to insist that someone in a public forum somehow has an obligation to provide all the details, especially when they concern someone else. So using just initials, or some kind of pseudonym, seems perfectly reasonable to me -- and even admirable.