This guy has never met my friends

[pecunium]

Language, however, puts information first and manipulation second. Suppose I were to explain to you Einstein's theory of relativity, or Chomsky's theory of a biologically based language organ. My purposes in giving you the information might well be that of impressing you, or even ultimately mating with you (although anyone who could be induced to mate by such means would have to be pretty weird).

Adam's Tongue Derek Bickerton p. 48

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[xinef.livejournal.com]

A couple of weeks ago, we had a chat with a friend who is divorced. She's decided to give okCupid a try, fully recognizing the long odds. Was amused by the quiz, until she got to the question "Which is larger, the earth or the sun?" The wrong answer to this question, she realized, would be a "deal breaker"! Needless to say, I'm sure she'd complete agree with your subject line to this posting, as do I.

[songblaze.livejournal.com]

Questions like that were a deal-breaker for me, too. I am always slightly bemused that I managed to meet my brilliant, sweet, handsome guy on a dating site that so obviously has people in the very shallow end of the intelligence pool.

...not that I didn't get my share of 'want 2 fuk?' messages. Sadly, you do have to deal with your share of boneheads on there.

But the boyfriend, who I've been with for almost 2 1/2 years, is better than anything I'd dreamed of before meeting him.

[pecunium.livejournal.com]

The things which amuses me is that brains are the dealmaker. A pretty face/body, may cause me to want to go to bed with someone, and talent may make me want to repeat it, but it's all the trapping of wit which make me want to stay.

Which is why the net has been so good for me, in terms of finding people I am seriously interested in... because form (to paraphrase Wilkes) is lost to the sense of intelligence the written communication of the net makes plain.